Recovering from an affair can be quite challenging on both partners: on one hand, you want to heal and move on; on the other hand, you don’t want to risk getting hurt again.
When an affair has been discovered in a relationship, it can trigger emotions of shock, guilt, anger, shame, confusion, betrayal and uncertainty about the possibility of the relationship’s survival.
Affairs are rarely just about sex. If one partner can’t communicate needs and get them met, he or she will look outside of the relationship, resulting in emotional cheating, which can sometimes feel even more painful than physical infidelity.
Some people feel awkward penetrating deeper things in their relations and cheat to uncover and express new aspects of themselves, while others cheat to experience choice or power in their lives, specifically if they feel threatened or smothered by their partner.
The good news is that with the appropriate guidance, support and insight, true healing is possible when the relationship issues that led to the affair are expressed and understood.
You can then reclaim your relationship, become more flexible and fluid with each other and come out on the other side of infidelity with greater strength, commitment and connection than before.